E really likes school. She has lots of friends who eagerly greet her in the morning when she arrives, and friends she hugs and waves good-bye to in the evening. She even has a BFF, Paige. E and Paige get along famously...so much so that her teachers mention that they do *everything* together. They are always together on the playground, and must give each other 100 hugs before we can leave.
The other thing they do when they see me? Ask me when Paige can come to our house and play.
Herein lies the problem. While Paige's mom seems nice enough (we've chatted in passing every now and again), I'm not sure she's the type of mom that will kick back and drink wine with me as our kids
run around the house like banshees play (like
some of my real-life mom friends would). So, I'm a bit hesitant to play-date it up. On the other hand...E and Paige *are* really good friends and they would be totally psyched to see each other outside of school.
So, I ask you, wise moms of the internet...do you have playdates with your kids' friends whose moms aren't your friends? What do you talk about? Or, do you do a drop-off playdate (or is 4 too young for that)?
You got opinions...I want to hear them!
6 comments:
I haven't- and for the same reason! I hate that 'awkward' feeling, and setting myself up for akward silences.......
Will has a new friend at school and I asked his teacher to point him out this am so I can check out the mom before I suggest a playdate.
H was almost 5 when we started "drop off" playdates, and only with parents I talked to a good amount at school. A good option for your first playdate is to meet up at a park, so the girls can play together, and you can distract yourself with A if the mom's not as cool as you are. ;) If she ends up being super-cool, invite them to your house next time.
i would like to see all the answers as well. i have not set up a playdate with sass's friend at school that she loves b/c the mom is not someone i hang with. i would offer a drop off, but even that i am not sure about yet.
I agree a/b the potential awkwardness. I like the meet-at-the-park idea...also if you need to bolt it is must easier than it is to leave someone's house.
Oh thanks SM...I'd love to drink some wine with you too. I agree about meeting at the park...not as awkward! I haven't encountered this situation yet, but I know it will happen!
I live in a small town and know everyone. Ha ha. I kid, I kid...kind of...No really, I think I may actually know everyone. That being said, they MUST pass the "Do you drink wine?" question before a play date can be established...Lucky for me, all of M's friends seem to have cool Mommies I already know... Damn, I live in a SMALL town. Ha ha.
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